Sabkush Lifestyle News: How to be a society bee .

Sabkush Lifestyle News: How to be a society bee .How to be a society bee

Being a party pro is an art. The charm, grace and mannerisms of a society diva... All comes from within. That’s the reason why some blend in easily and manage to make an impact, while others stand out because they try too hard to look cool. Thankfully, mingling with the sequinned crowd isn’t difficult, once you master the moves. Just arm yourself with these tricks and make a splash at the next champagne brunch you attend: Mindset “Just remember that we go to a party to relax and have fun,” says model-turned-choreographer Achla Sachdev. “Enjoy the energy and don’t be intimidated.” Socialite Esther Daswani agrees, “People don’t look or think about us, as much as we think they do. Realise that, and you will become comfortable.” Makeup Do up your face a bit, but not too much. “Highlight your best assets and dab on some moisturiser,” advices Achla. “Take care of your hair. If you don’t have time to hit the salon, then at least comb it neatly. While tying hair up at work is ok, for evenings, leave it open.” Forgo the deodorant in favour of a perfume, and make sure all that make-up is non-transferable — you don’t want to leave stains on people and crockery, right? Clothes When it comes to clothes, there are multiple opinions. While restaurateur Kishen Mulchandani says, “Less is better. Pile on the baubles and the brands, even if they are fake,” Achla suggests wearing something that may not be expensive, but is appropriate and neat. If you own a label, don it by all means — but don’t wear a Shahab Durazi worksuit to dinner; wear that nice Mango dress instead. Esther says, “I would be highly impressed by a person who bought a two-rupee flower and twined it interestingly into a necklace, than someone who holds a million-rupee bag clunkily.” Also, a little bling wouldn’t hurt. But don’t forget the golden rule: No label is better than the ‘Pradda’ and ‘Guci’ picked up from random shops. Meet-N-Greet Once at the party, don’t hover shyly at the door. Locate the host-hostess and head over to say hello. “If you don’t know them very well, shake hands,” opines Achla. “If they lean to give you a kiss, place your hands gently on their shoulders, touch cheek-to-cheek, and kiss lightly in the air. Do not pat them on the back or butt, and don’t hug, unless you are really old friends.” Opening conversation with phrases such as: ‘How kind of you to invite me’ or ‘You have a lovely home’ work well. Mingle After the initial hellos, move on to people you have been introduced to, or your friends. Don’t head straight to the bar. When you do, get a drink you can hold, recommends Achla. If you are a teetotaller, just quietly nurse a glass of orange juice or plain water. Conversation Here’s Kishen’s take on what to talk about: “Keep in the mind the news from the past few party papers, and throw names of people you met earlier. Make sure the people you are talking about are not within hearing range.” He also suggests talking about the Pilates or power yoga routine you are following. “Just throw loads of attitude and you will emerge a winner,” he claims. But Achla plays it safe. “If you’d like to interact with the guests later, tell them you’ve enjoyed talking to them and offer your business card. If they feel the same, they’ll exchange theirs as well.”